My confession about my muse
As moms we try to make everything even and fair. Although try as we might we often miss the mark. I have a confession… my youngest is my photo muse. Just look at my instagram account (heart_of_the_mamabear) and you will see… Charlee here… and Charlee there…Charlee everywhere. I do get my other two but to be honest I struggle. Maybe you do to. First off… my youngest is easy. She does cute things, wears crazy things, makes cute faces, and just enjoys hamming it up. My older two hide. Yes HIDE. They even think the camera is coming out and they scatter.
Then there is sport wear. I get that shorts and t-shirts of comfortable. But A. They are not photo cute and B. they are neon usually. WHY??? What is my son’s favorite color neon green. Anyone else feel me? I struggle because I want to get “real” photos of my kids but honestly they don’t always look great. At least not photo great. That is a terrible admission of mom guilt right there. But the truth.
Finally. Charlee is not awkward in front of the camera. She twirls and smiles. She honestly forgets I am there. My older two are totally different. They don’t know what to do and sometimes I don’t know what they should be doing. Sometimes we are both struggling a bit and it turns awkward. I often don’t want a portrait. I want to capture them while doing something and that makes them all sorts of uncomfortable. You would think they had never walked before with how they do it when I am taking their picture.
Now, to be fair my older daughter used to me by muse. She used to wear dresses and love to play. I think it is partly easier to photograph younger kids who just enjoy exploring and playing. They don’t have a care in the world.
I REALIZED I NEEDED A PLAN. I NEED A WAY TO CAPTURE AUTHENTIC MOMENTS OF ALL MY KIDS.
1) Realize it is ok to have sports gear in my photos. Ok. I may hate it, but that is where we are currently at in our lives and I don’t see it getting much better.
2) Buy casual simple clothes. Part of what I hate about sports clothes are all the logos and the colors (NEON!!!) To make my life easier I may just remove all of their sports clothes one night and replace with plain t-shirt and jeans. Maybe some cute capris.
3) Take my camera everywhere. I do a pretty good job packing my Sony in my Ona bag. I know I could use my cell phone, but I really prefer camera pictures. If I have my camera then I take pictures. Even ordinary moments are fun to capture when we are out (waiting on meals, hiking around, at the store.) I don’t relay on just taking them at home. A lot of what my older two do now is at practices or when we run errands. This would allow to to capture them in their element.
4) Make a big deal of taking their picture. They are old enough to go somewhere fun either just the two of us or even with a friend. I think if I made a big deal, let them help me pick out cute non-sporty clothes, they would get into it. Plus, if we went somewhere really cool it would truly be a fun memory. My son is really into baseball. It would be cool to go to a game with the goal of capturing him there.
5) Take more BW images. I am serious. Black and white images are classic and hide a multitude of bad color (..neon) It helps me and anyone else looking at focus on what is going on verses what my kids are wearing.
Does anyone else struggle with this?
What are your ideas?